You may be considering writing your own personalized wedding vows. GREAT. Always a good idea. Well – probably mostly always. When else publicly are we that comfortable to completely profess, proclaim – and just let it all out there how much we love this other person. And committing to do all the things we commit to doing – and sharing our love for that person.
Let it all out there. Don’t hold back. DON’T HOLD BACK.
Your wedding vows are an opportunity to say it all.
And sure you can look up templates and things online to find out what exactly to put in there – but really – in the end – what you write is simply anything you want to say to your partner. Do you have a memory with them you cherish? Put it in there. Do you have dreams you want to share with them? Put it in there. Hopes? Yup. You don’t have to fill it with I Love you I Love I Love – you can fill it with stories and descriptions of things that they do that you love, or simply how they make you feel. Because promises are one thing yes – but sharing how another person makes you feel – that’s rare – and special.
You can still have the traditional wedding vows if you need them for religious purposes – but that doesn’t mean that you can’t include your own as well. So get to it. Show your love.
Alright. If I don’t see you on your day – have a great wedding and I’ll talk to you later.
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While it’s perfectly fine and alright to simply go with the ‘regular program’ when it comes to your wedding ceremony – you may decide that the ‘regular program’ isn’t right for you.
Here are a few tips and ideas to keep in mind while you create your unique and special wedding ceremony.
You are getting married and the ceremony is actually the really important portion. Make sure you give it the attention and effort that it deserves. Even if you’re not writing a ceremony from scratch and simply making personalized adjustments to a traditional ceremony – be mindful and present during the planning of your ceremony.
Your beliefs as a couple and individually, make up the pieces of your ceremony. Spend some time discussing what’s important to each of you. Constructive disagreements are okay and you shouldn’t to avoid them.
Whether you go with a religious officiant associated with a traditional church, or if you have a friend get ordained – you want to find someone that you both like. Not just kind of like, but really like down to your bones and feel good about. This is the person that will be marrying you to each other!
It’s okay to go with a traditional service. Just like anything else – it’s all in HOW you do it, but also what it means to you. If you can’t find meaning in your wedding service then it doesn’t matter if it’s traditional or hand crafted.
Write your vows. I’m serious. I know people say it doesn’t matter – but it does. Also – writing your own vows is the easiest, and most powerful way to truly make your wedding ceremony ‘yours’.
When writing your vows – don’t hold back. Let it all go. Rip out your heart and give it to your other. Your vows is not the time to be cool, or polite. I repeat – rip out your heart and give it to your other.
When you arrive at your ceremony – show up. Be there emotionally.
Your ceremony is not the 15 minute break between drinks.
Your ceremony is not the warm up to the party.
Your ceremony IS the wedding.
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