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You just got engaged! Awesome. Finally! Woohoo! YEAAAAAHHHHHHH!
Okay. Great. Now what? Planning. Planning? PLANNING! If you haven’t already thought about running away screaming – don’t worry, there’s plenty of time for that. Oh – you’ll have more than enough opportunity to feel overwhelmed, pressured and generally want to give up and go elope. I mean – it’d be so much more simple right? Just the two of you and maybe your parents or some friends. Go to the courthouse, sign some papers, eat some food at a nice restaurant, maybe get some photos. DONE. Simple. Easy. But again – DONE. Right? Oh man – that would be so awesome AND stress free!
Well – it’s definitely one way to go – and one that you shouldn’t rule out. But wait.
Don’t give up on your wedding yet.
There’s a reason so many people still have weddings – and it’s not because of expectations (family, friends, or your own.) Weddings are a celebration of the union of two people. Your wedding is a celebration of your love and commitment to each other. It’s that simple – and everything – everything - in regards to your planning should keep that in mind. If there’s something that doesn’t feel motivated by the celebration of your love then it should be discarded, excluded, and not given any consideration. No one should live vicariously through your wedding, they shouldn’t take advantage of the occasion and nothing you don’t 100% agree with, should occur.
I’m sure I sound like some crazy hard-liner. Of course you should listen to opinions from your closest friends and family – they definitely play a role – and you’ll do what you can to meet their needs and wants up to the point where it doesn’t agree with what you truly want, authentically believe, and basically feel good about doing. Be strong. You can honor your family and meaningful persons without betraying yourself, your beliefs and decisions.
The reason you have a wedding is to celebrate your love. It’s not a must-have, or an absolute – you’re having a wedding because you want to have a wedding. So have the wedding you want.
…Well, of course you have to consider budgets, and who’s paying for your wedding, and tricky family situations – but there are ways to deal with these problems – because they’re not real problems.
So. You just got engaged. Now what? Well – now that we know why you’re having a wedding, we can start planning for it. Finding a venue, photographer, planner, your outfit, your food – yeah – all of that. We’ll be talking about all of this, all week long. See you tomorrow.
(This post will be updated with specific links to the future posts regarding finding vendors, and other planning processes.)
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