When I meet new people nowadays, I tend to fumble through the getting-to-know-you/small talk part of the conversation. It goes something like this:
New Person: “So, what do you do?”
Me: “Oh, I’m pretty much a mom these days!”
New Person: “Stay-at-home-mom? That’s a tough job.”
Me: “Yeah, but I love it! Well, and I do some part-time social work for a humanitarian organization. Just a few hours here and there, on my own time. And I sorta help run a photography business with my husband. But we hired a Creative Director a few months ago because I decided I really want to focus more on my Reiki practice. But yeah, I’m mostly a stay-at-home-mom… I think…”
It’s time for me to change this conversation. Cuz that… woah. But that’s me. I can’t sum myself up in one short sentence.
I am the possibility of a New Motherhood.
Rather than cram myself into one box, one acronym, I am redefining the cultural norms and rejecting the current labels. I want more. I AM more. I nurture all parts of myself, and even though I do many things part-time, I do them with my whole self. Part-time does not equal half-assed. I repeat (because I need to hear it), PART-TIME DOES NOT EQUAL HALF-ASSED. Part-time is setting healthy, workable boundaries. Part-time is the dance between caring for myself and caring for others. Part-time is how I roll.
I’m a part-time Stay at home mom.
I’m a part-time work at home mom.
I’m a part-time social worker,
A part-time photographer,
A part-time Reiki practitioner.
A part-time health nut,
A part-time ice cream connoisseur.
I’m a motherfucking pie chart of rainbow-colored awesome. Each slice of my life is needed for me to feel whole. But the percentages they represent shrink and grow, adjusted by both external factors and internal tugs.
I have three part-time careers. I have many part-time hobbies. I’m not just a SAHM or a WAHM or a WOTHM or whatever other acronym those Internet forums use. I don’t have a signature line. I’m more than a mom, a wife, a professional, an entrepreneur. And I’m not the only one! I’m just one of many women out there striking a better balance between work and self and kids and everything else.There isn’t a label for us. Yet. Maybe one day there will be, but someone else can come up with it. My pie chart is comfortably full these days. I can still read the legend. I know what each piece stands for and the value it brings to my life. I know who I am and what I want. Most days.
So the next new person I meet is going to get a decidedly more succinct response. You want to know what I do?
I DO WHAT I WANT.
And life doesn’t get much better than that.